Wedding Speeches Father Of The BrideHow I Wrote My Father Of The Bride Wedding Speech That Left Everyone Speechless!

When trying to please people with your wedding toast, forgetting to thank someone is one thing.  On the other hand saying the wrong thing altogether in the father of the bride wedding toasts could be a complete disaster!  I really wanted to avoid doing this, so I researched a number of helpful tips to avoid this embarrassing situation.

Pleasing The Newlyweds

The worst thing you can do is start talking about embarrassing stories about your daughter’s ex-boyfriends.  It might seem obvious, but believe me there are fathers that do it! Even if you want to compare your new son-in-law favourably, if she’s anything like mine she will not appreciate it – especially on the most important day of her life!

You should make sure to speak favourably of the bride at all times. Though it may seem fitting to add a slightly teasing joke, trust me, this is not the right situation for it.  In my speech I stuck to what I knew my daughter would want me to say, and it worked!

Alcohol

However well you may have prepared your speech (probably better than I did!) your number one worst enemy is alcohol.  Alcohol can bring just about anyone down, making them say the wrong things at the wrong times.  I was really wary of this and decided to hold off on drinking until my speech was over.  It’s a good thing I did, the groom’s father did not take the same advice.

A Few Other Tips

What made the idea of the father of the bride speeches stressful to me was the fact I didn’t plan ahead for my first daughter’s wedding.   Not planning ahead means being in a lot less control of what you say and thats a mistake I only made once.  Luckily there are plenty of resources online for those who even want a funny wedding speech that doesn’t offend anyone.

Lastly I have to add, no matter how well you say things, going on for too long isn’t going to go down well. People’s attention spans tend to be a bit short, and no one wants your long speech to separate their empty stomachs and the food waiting for them at the banquet.  Try to work on your father of the bride speech so it doesn’t take an hour to deliver!

I always knew that when my daughter and her fiance decided to get married I would have to write a father of the bride wedding speech, but I never knew how important that speech was going to be!  You see after my failed wedding speech as father of the bride at my other daughter’s wedding, I figured I would pass up this right.  Turns out you can’t fight tradition.

The only advice they gave me this time was to do the opposite of my last wedding speech, and to start early.  Don’t make the same mistake I did. Plan ahead if you can!

When you start writing your father of the bride wedding speech it will seem like a really difficult endeavor.  After all, it takes enough courage standing up in front of everyone in the first place that having to come up with an entertaining speech as father of the bride becomes too nerve wrecking!

As the day got closer I tried to think of an inspirational, but charming and hilarious wedding speech as father of the bride, but nothing was coming to mind. So what I eventually decided to do was to sit down and just write some of the thoughts that popped into my head.

Believe me, there are more efficient ways to plan a father of the bride wedding toast, but this was great for getting the old wheels moving.

It started out difficult, but as I began using speech prompts and guides, I soon started jotting down little tidbits of info about the family and my daughter.  Some good ideas I had were the emotions I felt when I first saw my daughter, and the emotions her new husband feels as they start their journey together.

At this stage you’re better off not worrying about the order or the content of what you’re writing (or any wedding speech jokes!)  The biggest problem in getting the perfect wedding speech is never actually starting to write it! So by jotting down my thoughts I was already over the first major hurdle for my father of the bride wedding speech.